Time does not heal you, you heal you.
SELF-EASE starts here...
Time does not heal you, you heal you.
SELF-EASE starts here...
Desires,goals,wishes,wants. You name it, it all boils down to the same thing. Something we don't have but would like in our lives in the future (or perhaps the not so distant future - we can get impatient us humans).
Not to be confused with needs however as these are something different. As human beings we all have needs, basic ones like food, water and shelter and other needs like all important LOVE. But thats a whole new blog or rather a few million. So today, I'm going to briefly talk about the things we want/desire in life and one way we can begin to manifest them.
Today, I bought some lottery tickets, something I only do randomly I might add. For a moment, I day dream that I will be the 'next BIG winner', leave Walmart kiosk and go home. That could be me one day according to the Lottery ads but until that big win that will solve all my financial woes and fill in a few (well a lot) of needs I tell myself I must make a plan.
In the chopped words of Benjamin Franklin, "fail to plan, plan to fail". He was right. Anyone who has ever made it big or been successful in business and life in general has made a plan in some way shape or form. Now there are the plans we make in our heads which get lost and buried, the plans we talk incessantly about but never actually get around to doing and the plans we, well we don't make. Instead we wish, dream and desire without substantial actions.
Take a look at this pic below.
What are your thoughts? Do you want to turn around and head back where you came from? Move over to the side and pitch a tent in hope that the calvary will come along...any minute now or start stepping so you get to see what's up ahead?
Well, imagine this road as your life (indulge me for a minute). All your desires, dreams and wishes could be over that hill in the distance.
As we can't stop time, you will either be dragged down the path by someone else, pushed by the wind in a go-with-the flow kind of way or you could take steps to reach your goals. So literally taking those steps are super important!
A good place to start is to write down your goals. Short term and long term. No one has to see them and you can use it as an indicator of where you're at and where you want to go with life.
Here are 7 top reasons as to why goal setting is important.
1) It allows you to see accomplishments
Its great when you can look back and check off that item on your list. It provides a sense of personal satisfaction and achievement. A reminder that 'YOU CAN DO IT'
2) Encourages you to check in with yourself
Revisiting your goals helps you to identify your position. You can ask yourself questions like: How am I doing? What could I do to improve? Has something on my list changed?
This can be a good time to check in with your values. There could have been significant growth and personal development that has created unexpected change. Having goals change isn't necessary a bad thing.
3) Acts as a useful sharing tool
Our goals are very personal but often tied in with our partners. This can be useful to do, say once a year with your partner. Have your goals changed? Are they different to that of your partner? Is that a problem? This could be a good time to sit down and check in with a counsellor for further assessment and support.
4) Ask, Believe, Achieve!
Some of you may have seen this term if your into spiritually or have read The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. Although there is more to manifesting our goals then simply asking once and waiting, having our goals somewhere we can see them is the best way to incorporate manifesting them on a daily basis. I firmly believe that gratitude is one of the universes best kept secrets. As you look at your goals, take a moment to close your eyes and feel as though you already have them.
Use them as you meditate. You are worthy and deserving, remember that!
5)Provides Real Accountability
Procrastination, feeling sorry for yourself or just plain laziness will show if you reach a milestone and you haven't checked off any boxes. So what happened? Did something go wrong or was you plain lazy. Now don't get me wrong we are all allowed the occasional day off but too many lazy days isn't very productive. There is a difference between self-care and being idle. Worse still blaming someone else for why you haven't moved. So who do you want to be? Reach out for help from a therapist or coach who may have some useful tips on how we can change things.
6) Increases Motivation
Ever had one of those days when you have lost all time and wonder why you got out of bed in the morning? At times we meander through life and its easy to lose sight of what it is we are striving for. A quick look at our goals in the morning helps to provide some focus and hopefully motivates us to cease the day ahead. Briefly review your list and remember why you came. (here on earth that is)
7) Reminds you to stay on track
Is something your doing out of line with your goals? Remember you are in control. If we focus more on what we can control instead of what we can't we can lead less stressful lives. We all have choices and decisions to make. The choice to say hello to a stranger, skip meditation or the gym can result in different experiences for us.
Ever seen the film sliding doors? Its a film about two possibilities, one when the actress Gwyneth Paltrow manages to get on the train and one where she misses it. Having our goals in mind may help us when it comes to making everyday decisions.
No matter what our goals are, big or small, it's important to be kind to ourselves on our journey through life. We all need a helping hand at times and there should be no shame in asking for support.
So....How do I do this? I hear you shout.
Aren't you in luck. The universe has synchronized our meeting of paths and I've created a short two-page document for jotting down your goals for you to access right here!
The first page can be used for a longer term plan and can be revisited every New Year perhaps. This is a great way to review the year past and make any necessary changes. Most importantly, celebrate your triumphs and achievements.
The second page can be completed and put somewhere where you can view it daily for all of the reasons above.
All the best with your goal setting and beyond. KD
Counsellor, Facilitator and Writer - My aim here is to provide articles which provoke thought into our inner spaces. Our many 'Selves' should be celebrated, nurtured and most of all understood. Who we are when we are by ourselves and with others is paramount to our very existence and evolution. Connect.Support and Heal with KD Self-Ease.